You know the scene. It’s too familiar and keeps happening like a broken record. You secretly fancy a guy but he looks past you. Both of you are friends but it seems he doesn't notice you, nor your romantic feelings for him. You're desperately trying to get his attention-- you've tried love spells, love potions, and some enchanted pendant charms but to no avail. The fact is, you've even made a big fool of yourself by feeding his dog, mowing their lawns, doing his laundry, and buying him expensive gifts.

You've reached your end of the line.

If you find yourself in similar situation described above, don’t worry. There's still hope. You can get his attention in a flick of a hand, impress him, and make him want you. Here's the secret formula for attracting your crush.



1.) DO YOUR EYES A MAKE OVER


Your eyes are the first thing that people notice. Always keep them clean. Highlight your eyelids, trim your brows, and make your eyes show happiness. Look in the mirror then think happy thoughts and your eyes will shine with happiness. Train your eyes to be this way when you meet your crush. Using your eyes, flirt with him by looking into his eyes for half ---the word is HALF-a second. Then steer your gaze away. The next time you stare at him, hold your look steady for three seconds with a trace of a faint smile on your lips and abruptly peel away from his look. On the third time you catch his eyes, give your cutest, sweetest smile.

2.) GIVE YOUR EAR

Not literally of course, you silly. Assuming you been acquainted with each other, there will always come a time when he will come to you to talk about his problems. When he does, listen to him. Keep your hands away from your bag. Shut off your cell phone. Give him your complete undivided attention. Hear him out without ever interrupting him. Some women have the habit of jumping to conclusions without ever hearing his whole story and offering him a loadful of unsolicited advice. Don't ever dare make this stupid mistake. Moreover, refrain yourself from looking straight into his eyes when he pours down his problems to you. Look at the ground beneath, at the tiny speck of grass that emerges from the soil. Or if you want, you may close your eyes while encouraging him to talk. The reason for this is simple. It feels very awkward for him to spill out his troubles when someone is prying into his eyes. And while he's telling you his worries, try to lightly touch his shoulder, squeeze his arm gently or hold his hands. These gestures tell him you are his ally and you are there to support him. Once he's finished telling you his troubles, try to find a logical solution. Most guys will already appreciate a girl's listening ear. It makes them feel better and will surely endear you to his heart.

3.) BE POSITIVE and HAPPY

No one, much less a guy, wants to be around with a whining, cantankerous person. So cultivate a happy attitude. Be positive about life and live its small moments of joys. Put all your worries and problems in the backseat of your and live life to the fullest every ticking second. Your being positive and happy will draw men to you like a strong magnet.

4.) STAY INFORMED

Any guy has this intense loathing for dumb, coquettish girls who know nothing but preen their looks themselves obsessively. If you really want to attract your crush, then do yourself a favor. Read newspapers. You don't have to commit to memory the full names of world leaders, or the current trend in stock trading. On the extreme side, don't be a bookworm, either. Just get the necessary facts. In short, just stay informed. You’ll have something worthwhile and engaging matters to discuss when you meet your crush.

5.) STIR UP HIS IMAGINATION

Guys are visually-oriented. You can take advantage of this fact the next time you meet him by opening up your hair and combing it back as you look deep into his eyes. Make the act appear casual. As additional ideas, you can smoothen your dress and show cleavage. Or pretend to smack a stray ant that bites your upper legs and lift your skirt --presumably to brush away the supposed ant-- making sure you discreetly give him a glimpse of exposed skin as feast to his eyes.


6.) BE YOURSELF

Never try to act or speak like someone else. The last thing a guy would want is a cheap copycat. Learn to take pride in the real you. Be your own self when you are with him and you'll have his admiration.


7.) MAKE YOURSELF UNAVAILABLE

You intensely like him, and naturally you show yourself to be always available for him. Time to break it, girl. Guys are like elusive butterflies; the more you chase them, the more they stay away. So why not utilize your time in something constructive-- like taking dance lessons, for example. or learning first aid. Immerse yourself in worthwhile activities. These will give you benefits like hitting two birds with one stone--you learn enjoyable skills in the process and at the same time make him want you more because of your absence.


8.) STAY FIT

Take good care of your body. Practice proper hygiene. Have a regular exercise. Involve yourself in active sports on weekends. Lead a healthy lifestyle. If you are in his shoes, you wouldn't to be close with a couch potato blob, would you?


9.) MAKE YOURSELF PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE


Find a suitable hairstyle that fits your personality. If you have been sporting long hair for so long, now's the time to trim it short and have a new look. If you’ve been used to short hairs, strive to grow it long. The point here is finding a hairstyle that will make you attractive.

And don't forget your wardrobe. Take a hard look at your dresses. Consult a fashion designer, go through brochures of women's hip dresses and find one that suits you. Go for clothes that make you look smart, sexy, and enhance your feminine appeal. But always make sure you are comfortable with the chosen dresses.


10.) LASTLY, TELL HIM

You hear it right, ladies. Why not walk up front and tell him you he's your secret crush? Today's women liberation gives equal rights to the sexes, you know. You can invite him to concerts shows, to romantic movies, and other worthwhile activities like tackling the treadmill in the fitness gym. The idea is to initiate the first move. Now wait for his. If you've played your cards right all along, he'll be knocking at your door the next morning with a bunch of fresh flowers.

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Beauty means different things to different people. To some it is the aesthetically pleasing form of a woman's face. To others, it is the sense of comfort one feels in the presence of a beautiful woman. Some people hold the view that beauty lies in the eye of the beholder--- meaning that what maybe beautiful to some may not be beautiful to others.
The dictionary defines beauty as “the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit.” It is based on physical attributes. However, there is a "higher" beauty than this mere physical type of beauty. This is called inner beauty. The outer beauty can be enhanced with the use of make-up and modern technological advances of plastic surgery. The inner beauty can only be nourished by a good, loving heart. And this is the beauty that must be sought and cultivated in our lives.

So how does one cultivate inner beauty? Feliz Fojas, author of " Radiate Your Inner Beauty" and Janet Behmer and Shirley Pierce, authors of " 6 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem: An Inner Beauty Workout For Women" offer the following ways to radiate a good aura of inner beauty.



1.) BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL

What we think greatly influences our way of life. Understand that you are perfect even before you put on a dress. As long as you are in perfect health, you are beautiful regardless of your shape, color, or size.

2.) REMOVE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS FROM YOUR THOUGHTS

Negative emotions like fear and anger, and negative thoughts like wanting to deceive or do harm are dynamos of bad vibrations. Harboring them will repel those around you, who will find you ugly and repulsive no matter how physically attractive you are. These negative tendencies also drain your youth-preserving vitality and life force, called chi in Chinese or prana in Sanskrit, causing you to age long before your time. And these thoughts prevent you from radiating inner beauty.

3.) DEVELOP YOUR CONVERSATIONAL SKILLS

Make it a habit to read the newspapers. Be aware of the current trends. Watch informative shows or movies where you can learn and master the art of good conversation so that you will become a woman who has diverse and stimulating topics to talk about.


4.) CELEBRATE YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS IN LIFE

Have your own private celebration of who you are. Your accomplishments, your dreams, and your hard work are nothing to sneeze at. Admire the parts of your body you like with the same energy that you "dis" the parts you don't like. And for the parts you don't like just remember where they came from -- your female ancestors. And imagine what they did with those features -- survived holocausts, worked on assembly lines, cleaned other women's houses -- to make you who you are. So, while you're celebrating yourself, celebrate your grandmother a little, too. But here's a bit of caution. Don't take too much pride in your achievements - a person who is very proud of his accomplishments is known to be more stressed. Remember, achievements sometimes hinder us from growing and learning.


5.) TAP INTO THE POWER OF VISUALIZATION

Sit on a chair or on the floor, cross-legged or in lotus position, with your eyes closed and your spine erect but relaxed. Put your palms up on your lap with the tips of the forefinger and the thumb of each hand touching each other and forming a ring, and with the tip of your tongue lightly touching the roof of your mouth to keep the energy of your body in a closed circuit. On the first inhalation, visualize a white, luminous shaft of light coming down from heaven, entering through the top of your head, and nestling in the center of your chest. On the second inhalation, visualize another white shaft of light coming up from the center of the earth and meeting the light of heaven in your chest, transforming it into a white circle of light one inch in diameter. You now have a balanced polarity of yin (female) and yang (male) energies. Inhale and exhale fully seven more times

6.) TREAT YOURSELF

If it feels good, do it. Spoil yourself with any positive experience you can think of. Get a massage. Hit your favorite spa. Go for a walk. Go to the gym. Go to the video store and max out on films featuring your favorite movie star. Use your imagination. Learn to play an instrument. Just never forget these words, "This is for me."

7.) PRAY

Kneeling down or seated, with your eyes closed and your hands clasped in a gesture of silent prayer in the center of your chest, inhale and exhale deeply seven times, and silently, fervently pray, "Bless me with inner beauty and divine love." Say this three times and end with "Amen," or "So be it."

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